Look for the other person's point of view
In our interaction with each other, none of us is blameless. No family or group or nation is blameless. We all cause some unfortunate things to happen. We all need to take responsibility for those experiences. We all need to learn from them. Some events will be beyond our control to influence directly. But even there, hasty condemnation is rarely helpful. - (The Universal Heart, Stephanie Dowrick, pp358).